Understanding your Why

Finding out your true ‘why’ on the reason that you want to lose weight is one of the biggest factors in losing weight. You need to find out Why you want to lose weight and ultimately lose that “Mum Tum”.

The first step to achieving sustainable weight loss and to have more energy in our lives is to decide exactly why it is that you want this result.

Without a big enough ‘why’ then it will be extremely difficult to achieve your goal. If you are not totally clear about your why then it is impossible to make plans and take action to achieve it.

For example, say you make a new year’s resolution to lose weight in 2023 (like maybe many years before) for no reason, expect perhaps that you want to look a bit better in the mirror. Now compare that to the ‘why‘ of a lady that needs to lose 50lbs so she can have a lifesaving operation. Which of these two ‘whys‘ is more likely to have the desire and willpower to succeed? I am not saying that goals will only be achieved if your life was depending on them. Any honest goal can be achieved if you have a big enough why to achieve it. Losing a few LBS to fit into a dress is not a big enough reason why.

Losing weight might be a result, but it should not be the goal.

The more passionate you are about your ‘whys’, the more motivation you will have to achieve your goals. You need an important and meaningful reason to achieve your goals.

Okay, so now ask yourself, “Why do I really want to lose weight?” How strong is the desire you mentioned when answering that question?

You must discover your real ‘Why’.

For example:

  • I will have more energy to play with my kids/family and be a better mum
  • I will have more energy to do the things that I love so I can enjoy life more
  • I will not feel tired and sluggish anymore so I can be more productive and get more done
  • I will be more confident, efficient & successful in my work life and go for that promotion
  • I will live a healthier and longer life without chronic illness and pain
  • I will have a better relationship with my husband as I will feel more confident and sexy
  • I will have improved self esteem and confidence which will reduce my anxiety

If the ‘Why’ isn’t strong enough then your desire will stop you when you are faced with obstacles.

The main reason that most women fail to lose weight is that they get fixated with results, focus on fad diets and short-term fixes, and lose sight of the stainable weight loss and their true why.

Once you have figured out your true why – then it is time to take action to get you there.

Focus on Your Processes Not On Your Goals

Once you know why you really want something then you can create the changes required in everyday life and commit to them. You must be truly honest with yourself and accept that making small changes in your routines and lifestyle is what will be needed to achieve your overall goal.

Focus on Process Goals

Goals for weight loss usually focus on the end goal. An end goal might be to lose a certain amount of weight. This goal will give you a target, however it does not address how you will reach it.

Process goals are necessary to achieve your desired outcome

Process goals are small daily habits or routines that if you stick to will result in achieving your overall goal.

An example of a process goal might be to:

Eat five servings of fruits or vegetables a day

To walk 30 minutes a day
To drink 8 glasses of water a day

Process goals are particularly helpful for weight loss because you focus on changing your behaviours and habits that are necessary to lose weight.

You must break down your big goal into smaller, achievable tasks and commit to making them routine.

Set SMART goals

A good goal-setting strategy is to use SMART goals. Simply stating “I want to lose weight” is too broad. SMART goals should be:

  • Specific – declare what you will do and how long you will do it. “I will walk 30 minutes every day” is specific.
  • Measurable. If your goal is measurable, then you can check how successful you are at meeting the goal. I will jog 1 mile three days a week is measurable.
  • Attainable. You must make sure that you have the time and resources to achieve your goal. “I will walk 5 miles on Sunday mornings” may be attainable if you usually sit and watch TV all day on Sundays.
  • Relevant. Your goal must be meaningful to you. Don’t set goals that someone else wants you to obtain. Set your goal based on your why.
  • Time-bound. Set a deadline for your goal. I will go to bed every night by 10am.

A good SMART goal example – I will eat a minimum of 10 servings of fruits and vegetables daily by 30th September. I will accomplish this by planning my meals ahead of time every Saturday, going shopping once a week, and eating 3-4 servings per meal.

Setting SMART goals will allow you to make plans and take daily actions that will culminate in you reaching your big why goal.

This doesn’t mean that you will reach your goals with little effort, there’s no doubt work to be done. Taking action, forming new habits and routines are an essential part of the process.

This may all seem a little overwhelming at first, but I promise you it doesn’t have to be. Taking the time and focusing your energy on taking tiny little steps every day is the key to success. You do not have to do this alone – there are many resources available that explain the process. Try to meet people that can help you. Join support groups and meet likeminded people or even hire a coach to give you accountability and motivation to reach your goals.

If your why is big enough then your try is big enough!

You just need to know your reason why 😊



Lucy Round (The Detox Coach) is a qualified nutrition coach, detox & wellness coach and personal trainer and the founder of www.clowcleanse.co.uk and WeightLossForBusyMums (a weight loss support group for busy mums).

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